I was going through a lot of heavy, negative and nagging emotions earlier, thinking about the things that has happened to me, being troubled by my past. What is the past anyways but just a collection of memories? I mean, it is after all up to me on how I want to take it. Life is too short to be dwelling in the past, right? And yet there was still a deep sense of hurt in me. I then found the root of the cause. Self hate.
Therefore, on my journey of self discovery I wanted to find the core value that was crucial in living in this day and age, having a balance of the material as well as the meta physical or in laymen's terms, spiritual level. Been feeling empty and seeking for outward approval and satisfaction as opposed to being ok with being me.
I've always had the tendency to spoil myself. That wasn't a problem. But the spoiling wasn't balanced and it lead to being a chronic shopaholic ending up with stuff which I don't really need. It became a destructive process rather than a process of growth. I'm grateful that I am aware of this, yet again being too focused on the outer as opposed to having inner peace.
Hence at times I noticed I attract negative events into my life because I am not being positive to me. Therefore my life's journey shall include the zest of being my own best friend.
It's just changing the way I talk to myself. I've made this realization ages ago but I think now is the best time as any. Words of encouragement and compassion shall replace the critical and condemning. There's this interesting article that talks just about How To Be Your Very Own Best Friend and it says to talk to yourself like you would to your child.
Be your own parent. Nourishing, understanding and loving. Obviously you would want to be anything but loving to your child. Some of you might be thinking, yea but it's a harsh, cruel world out there but don't you think it's about time that you made that change? People will sense the kind of respect and love you have for yourself therefore they will show you the same kind of respect and love you show to yourself.
Ever heard of Do to others as you would do to yourself. But how are you going to treat people with respect and love if you don't even show it to YOU?
Noticed how horrible it feels to be criticized for a mistake that you've made and compare that feeling with someone who would approach you in a compassionate and loving manner?
Makes a hell lot of difference, yes?
So what I make mistakes, you make mistakes, everyone else makes mistakes! From mistakes you learn. Your own pace and your own time.
You are the most important person in the world to you.
Not any amount of money, gold, people can satisfy that until you take the horse by the reigns and have a solid relationship with yours truly.
With rigour in applying this concept, you will notice a great difference in how you feel, your health, your mental state and how the world will respond to you.
But this concept shouldn't be just intellectualized, you should sincerely feel compassion and love towards yourself. How you go about it? It's up to you really. Whatever works that makes you feel loved will be fine. Start the beautiful process by providing your senses (touch, hearing, seeing) with all the positivity in the WORLD! :)
If you're wondering what special treat will you give yourself. This would be it.
I've been living 28 years of my life (and counting!) and I am very appreciative and grateful that I came across this thought yet again! :)
So the next time, instead of saying to yourself "Idiot, you f*cked up again!!!!!!" Say "Hey it's alright we'll do it 100 times better next time! Wo0o0o0ot!!"
May this make a change in your lives for the better!
Till the next posting.
Much love and abundance to your way....
WHAT I LIVE BY
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.